My name is Olayinka. My wife and I have been married for 18 years and I found out she cheated early in our marriage. The first time was at year 6 and the next at year 8. She confessed the affairs to me 3 years ago and I decided to stay and try to work it out. We went for counselling and I thought all was going to be ok. She was very emotional and begged for me to forgive her. I automatically said I would forgive her, but I think that was because she was so upset. It was my nature to protect her. All this time I have been wondering if I should have left. I love her now as a friend and still care for her, but there is no passion at all on my part. We have two wonderful daughters, 16 & 10.
My wife has now given me the opportunity to take some time apart and see if that will help. She said she wants me to stay, but if I am not happy she would rather set me free.
What should I do?
Nawa..Later they'll say it's only men that cheat. Bros, just pray for God's guidance...cos it'll take some time to heal and get past everything.
ReplyDeletethis is normal… move on…. find love in life not just one person. How anyone can stay after finding out is beyond me… that is a hurt that will not heal.
ReplyDeleteWhen someone cheats on you. Leave them. its not heartless. its not because 'ive been hurt. if you forgive someone it translates to it was ok. then she wonders what else she can get away with. she will turn u into a tool. i love psychology. maybe one day we can figure out women and their ways.
ReplyDeleteI am a Woman..and i know people might condemn me for this, and i really dont care. I cheated on my husband and i dont feel guilty because i am lonely i know his working for us his family to find income to buy all my needs but i found someone who can give more than i want, money, jewelry,out of town trips, night clubing, and most is exotic sex ever in my life
ReplyDeleteI will never get married! Not that I don’t won’t to, but with all the heartless women in the world, I don’t trust anyone. Women who cheat, have ruined any chance of me getting married. I will most likely die a sad, lonely man, because women like this have destroyed my heart and my trust..PEACE..
ReplyDeleteHmmm...some women sha. My wife cheated on me with one of her younger brother's friends. It was a blessing in disguise. Im free to continue my life. I still miss her sometimes, but hey, some sins cannot just be overlooked. I'm not God
ReplyDeleteI cant.........Dats all.
ReplyDeleteHian..I cant imagine how you're feeling. it must hurt s much.My uncle went thru something similar. He prayed and he went for counselling with his wife. Things seem to be better now tho.
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